the acquisitive approach

Most of us are engaged in the acquisitive approach to happiness, where we believe that happiness is going to come one day in the future, after we achieve some great amount of success, or a certain number of zeros in our bank account, or meet our soul mate.

But this thinking is backwards, and it’s what prompted Jim Carey to say, “I think everybody should get rich and famous and do everything they ever dreamed of so they can see that it’s not the answer.”

According to the science, after our basic needs are met, the secret to increasing happiness is (drum roll….) definitely not making more money. Instead, it has a lot more to do with:

– Dancing
– Helping others
– Expressing gratitude
– Getting five or more hugs a day
– Keeping fresh flowers or plants at home
– Exercising
– Meditating

So, today, instead of worrying about getting a raise or selling a company, we need to spend more time working out how we can go from two hugs a day to seven, or maybe eight?