our final impression

our final impressions

I’ve noticed how at funerals, no one talks about the financial accomplishments of the deceased—you know, whether they had good credit, or were the top salesman in their territory, or how they never missed a car payment.

By and large, people remember our personal interactions. They remember how we made them feel. They remember the times when we stood up for them, and those inspiring moments when we displayed a zest for life.

Knowing this, what if we lived today as though our personal interactions with friends, family, children, spouses, and strangers were the true measure of a successful life?

What if we treated each personal interaction and conversation and moment of inspiration that we have today as a precious opportunity to invest in our final impression as a human being?


jazz for cows

This video reminds me of something I’ve heard mentioned several times during my numerous trips to India: that all of nature is sentient (responsive)—not just the cows, but the birds, the flowers, the rivers, and the trees too. Basically, all flora and fauna can not only receive our attention, but can reciprocate it as well.

How fascinating!

As an experiment, what if we pretend that all of the plants and flowers we pass can indeed reciprocate our attention? Let’s serenade them with our songs, acknowledgments, or positive vibes. Sounds hokey, I know, but I dare you 🙂

Light Watkins

sa ta na ma

Breathe in for 20, hold for 20, exhale for 20.

One minute breathing.

I’m dying.

My mind stopped the game completely in its tracks, Ooooh, we’re not doing this, sorry.

Mouth salivating.
Heart palpitating.

“Breathe in, SA TA NA MA, hold SA TA NA MA, exhale SA TA NA MA,” the woman in white tells us from the front.

Oh. My. God.
Who does this shit?!

“If you can manage this, you can manage anything. A minimum of 11 minutes, let’s go.” She says smiling with her eyes closed.

Ok, mind, hold it together.
This can be easy.
We don’t have to make a big fuss over it.
You can overcome this.

SA TA Nah, man–

Fuck this!
Let’s get outta here NOW!

I “got through” 3 minutes and came out panting, out of sorts and, well, humbled.
The power of the mind…It reminds me of this quote:

“Both poverty and riches are the offspring of thought.”
― Napoleon Hill, Think and Grow Rich

man course

FADE IN: 2 girls with teas-in-tow.

So I’m walking with my girl, you know, shooting the shit, I hadn’t seen her in like a minute, and out of the fuckin’ blue, we hear this guy shout out to us. The next thing we know, he’s directly in front of us, well, my friend.
“I had to stop you and tell you I think you’re beautiful,” he tells her.
My friend giggles completely flattered.
We say some warm stranger hello’s and then his boy is next to us shooting the shit with me.
“What are you guys up to?” the first guy says.
I point to my friend and tell them I haven’t her in a minute, so we’re gonna go catch up, so thanks but no thanks, you know.
We say our goodbyes. That was flattering, you know, blahblah, and then we keep walking.

About a minute later, the friend dude is running up behind us. He’s panting cuz it’s been like 2 blocks, “Ladies!” he yells. We stop.
“I just needed to know,” — still panting — “Are there boyfriends in the equation or can I ask you out for a drink sometime?” He’s looking right at me.
My friend, still flattered, says with a huge grin, “Sorry, we’re committed.”
“Ok, but does he have to know?” this time he’s staring right at me.
“I don’t do that,” I tell him with a little, you know, back the fuck up, bitch! — I mean, who says that?!
My friend gives me a “Be nice” look.
I mean, come on!

Anyway, that’s besides the point. It dawns on me, you know, 3 minutes later, that about a month ago, a student of mine told me he was in this man course on how to date a woman. And he showed me the same trajectory — you know, run up to the girl, stop in front of her so she can’t keep walking, say something nice. My student does it to me on the street after class one day, I thought it was crazy and told him that. And then here we are, this guy did the same thing to us. He’s taking the fuckin’ course!

March full crow moon

march new moon

What is March new moon?

As the temperature begins to warm and the ground begins to thaw, earthworm casts appear, heralding the return of the robins. The more northern tribes knew this Moon as the Full Crow Moon, when the cawing of crows signaled the end of winter; or the Full Crust Moon, because the snow cover becomes crusted from thawing by day and freezing at night. The Full Sap Moon, marking the time of tapping maple trees, is another variation. To the settlers, it was also known as the Lenten Moon, and was considered to be the last full Moon of winter.

Here are my Full Crow Moon offerings:

I let go of doubt.

I let go of grass being greener.

I let go of scarcity mindset.

I cultivate Trust, with a capital T.

I cultivate playfulness.

I cultivate Creativity.

Your turn.